1. I STRONGLY DISAGREE with the issue at hand – if it is unethical for a counselor to meet his psychological needs partly from work. However, certain boundaries have to be met that is necessary to define the bold term from the phrase “…Partly through work.” It is a known fact that the more we experience, the more we learn, all the more we can share those experiences – though I am always open to the notion that each client’ situation is unique no matter how similar they are with the previous engagements. We all learn from each other and one professionally grows with a lot of experiences, be it good or bad. As a counselor however, when we say meeting psychological needs, there is always that thin line between yourself and your client’s.
I may meet my needs psychologically from counseling him but his’ is always put first and my meeting my needs shouldn’t disrupt his way of living, his positive thoughts on life. Quoting from one of American Counseling Association’s objectives, a culturally-skilled counselor possesses knowledge about their social impact on others (http://www.counseling.org). We should always know that our mingling/style may clash or foster the counseling process with our clients, thus we must always anticipate the impact it may have on them. The area the issue is imposed is quite on the gray shade though as the author of Ethics in Psychotherapy & Counseling, 3rd Editior puts it, Awareness of the ethics codes is crucial to competence in the area of ethics, but the formal standards are not a substitute for an active, deliberative, and creative approach to fulfilling our ethical responsibilities. After all, the ultimate goal of counseling is helping one to move on with life with a new positive outlook when one is hampered by a negative event which had haunted him since. So why not learn from the experience by experiencing theirs, but of course in a discreet, silent and non-destructive way.
2. Apparently, there is a difference between the two but their goals align to helping an individual stand up in a crisis. Yes, both roles are different. Both require some degree of understanding of the human being and the way his counselees would think. Yes there is.
After answering the above Yes-or-No questions, here is on firm comparison between the counselor and the guidance counselor in the context of the school environment, where school counselors do not like being referred to as guidance counselors.
Quoting from Adri Shipp, MAEd, NCC, NCLSC, a school counselor herself, In 1957, the launching of Sputnik I by Russia prompted the U.S. government to react out on the concern that the U.S. was falling behind in the areas of math and science. Hence, the National Defense Education Act, was passed placing “guidance counselors” in schools to identify those students who were especially gifted in math and science. Basically, “guidance counselors” identified students, encouraged them to go into careers in math or science, and the U.S. benefited from their skills in these areas. Quite a bit has changed since then. Counselors are no longer just in charge of “guidance”, but developmental school counseling programs that meet students’ academic, personal/social, and career needs. School counselors now hold master’s degrees and state licensure in the area of school counseling. Many, such as myself (Adri Shipp), also hold additional credentials such as national certifications or have chosen to do post-master’s work in the field. In short, the term “guidance” counselor does not do justice to the role school counselors play in helping students achieve all they can. School counselors do SO much more than guidance! (http://schoolcounselor.sye.abss.k12.nc.us/modules/groups/integrated_home.phtml?gid=238543)
3. Seeing from the narrative, the major value as I see it is the notion of the Future. How will they put on with another kid, in addition to the two, and her plans of finishing school in time her husband’s finishing his Law. The discussion should flow from them taking every pro’s and con’s, weighing them and guiding the client during the whole process.
4. Several values would present challenges and would even come out as dilemmas to the client. One, and the greatest as I see in this narrative, is the value of seeing a fetus as a life form which is greatly contributed by ones religious upbringing. Guilt always presents as an aftermath and need not be neglected. Second value is financial instability as presented by them already having 2 “unprecedented” kids (as she put it). Another is the courage to get on with it as presented by her calling the clinic but cannot seem to talk the minute there is a Hello on the other end of the line. Apparently, this is brought about by the first notion.